Magi astrology Cinderella/Prince Charming Romance Timing for Soul Mate connections

(Note: the role of Cinderella 

is being played by Scarlett Johansson.)

“Dear Astrological Consultant, when will I find the man (or woman) of my dreams**?”**(Note: yes, men do have 'romantic times' too; the author Robert Louis Stevenson met his wife, who was 10 years senior, during such an event--and he wrote some great love letters to her. And there certainly are 'romantic' signs for men with Venus in their chart.)

The Magi system comes from the Shaolin monks (yes, the ones who developed kung fu as a martial arts discipline); it's based ONLY on aspects between key planets and the timing/transit activations. If you consider that horary astrology ("Where are my missing keys" or "Should I buy or sell stocks now?") is on a similar method. Are key players engaged or not either in harmony or challenge?

The comet Chiron is the planet of Cinderellas.  Like any other planet, Chiron is constantly moving as it orbits the Sun. As Chiron moves in the sky, whenever it makes a special harmonious energy to your Venus, Jupiter, or Neptune, you are at the peak of your Romance Cycle. The same is true when the position of Venus, Jupiter, or Neptune in the sky makes a harmonious energy flow to your Chiron. It is at these times that you are in your Cinderella Time and you are most attractive, most charming, and most fascinating. (A Pluto Magi time would likely bring someone who has a great $$ opportunity.)

During your Cinderella Time, people forgive you for everything. They overlook your faults and you are at the peak of your popularity. It is during your Cinderella Time that you are as irresistible as you can possibly be. You can almost walk on air. 

   ***This is when you have the greatest chance of meeting your Prince Charming (or your princess), fall in love together, and marry him (or her). But as you must have guessed, your Cinderella Gateway is open only for a few times in your life and only briefly each time. Don't miss it. It is crucial that you take advantage of it whenever it occurs in your own life.

Now: does EVERY timing mean a happy encounter? No. Keep in mind that free will is a guiding rule in all human interactions and decisions; anyone can talk him/herself into validating the wrong person's presence despite obvious warnings and refusals to accept "He/she's NOT right for me." But you MAY find yourself meeting a Significant Soul Mate who is there for a major lesson, or even to fulfill some form of obligation. The results are both yours and theirs.

Chiron & the "Gifted Child" dynamic for personal/professional healers

The Drama of the Gifted Child

Each of us carries within our psyche a form of wounded identity; some of us choose to become counselors or therapists who work with the wounds of others who need help in fixing the pain, memories, and association that come with the traumas of childhood and a dysfunctional family. In this book, Alice Miller explores the identity of The Gifted Child.

My point is simple but direct: for those of us who are psychological counselors and Intuitive Advisors, this is our Chiron's release point and fulfillment! "Gifted Children" are often the focal point of a dysfunctional family;  the book The Family Crucible explores this too.  Gifted children are also often the products of emotional abuse by a narcissistic parent.  (My mother has been classified as 'narcissistic'; however, it is my belief that my entire family and I have this issue; I see it as a global human experience. Narcissistic disorder is really about Ego and recognition.)  However, if the child's great need for admiration is not met for his/her looks, intelligence, or achievements, he/she falls into severe depression.

Miller has created a work that reaches into the soul and guides the reader through innermost (sometimes forgotten) memories and details of early life. By showing very clearly how gifted children are often relegated to that back burner of the family because of their own innate self-sufficiency, she paints a vivid picture of unconscious, conditioned manipulation and a common lack of emotional maturity in the part of the parents. The child is essentially denied a self of its own, as the needs of the parent are always paramount.

Miller says one can only be free from depression "when self-esteem is based on the authenticity of one's own  feelings and not on the possession of certain qualities."  In this case, a child who is exceptional in some way (and most likely an Intuitive Soul who is unaware of this ability) is the catch-all for the family's myths and issues.  This child becomes the "damaged goods" who never fulfills the expectations of his/her parents because they are "incapable" and therefore appear as non-productive, non-achieving, or introverted in order to protect themselves against the domineering egos of their parents and other family members.

In my case, my role in the family as "the genius who was unable to handle school" left me with an overall sense of personal worthlessness and confusion about my own reactions to the events of my adult life. Not having been allowed true feelings of my own through my childhood, I found myself lost in a sea of immature emotions once separated from the needs of both of my parents and their continual controlling mechanisms and denial of my identity as an adult.  This was also transferred by my siblings to me:  they continue to deny my values and beliefs because they are in conflict with their own and thereby consider mine to be "worthless." 

Denial is another phase of this:  when confronted with these damaging statements, effort is made by them to brush aside my demonstration of being injured by their words or representations.

Miller has identified one of the basic problems of her approach: she views the mother as the most probable source of this type of emotional manipulation, as the mother is traditionally the primary caregiver in very early childhood. But if read with a deliberate awareness that both parents (present or not) are involved in the panorama of childhood experience, a more balanced reading will yield surprisingly sharp images and a keener understanding of one's formative years.

WARNING: This book is powerful and extremely insightful, but not the informational or educational manual you might expect from the title--it is very personal, and is likely to evoke unexpectedly strong emotions.  The content of this book is extremely powerful and can be a painful experience, especially for a reader who finds him/herself relating to the content but not ready to face their own reality. 

Although it is certainly a classic, it is not a book to be offered capriciously to friends and acquaintances--a casual recommendation may be detrimental to your relationship with the unsuspecting victim.

Chiron: healing one's psychological-family emotional wound to learn to heal others

Magi astrology synastry & Chiron's Key to Love, Romance, & Prosperity

The Magi astrology system of Love, Romance, Success, Prosperity, Longevity in relationships and marriage, and Happiness Together:

Synastry techniques

 Chiron represents the kind of person we want in a committed relationship, and also our outcome for family, children, and happiness in a partnership or marriage setting. This is the key focal point. Juno is about sexuality and commitment; She represents the Ideal Life Partner quality that we seek and what we offer in return.

The Magi system uses very narrow arcs of aspect from the major planets to/from Chiron, the Master Comet. Magi Planets are the basic 9 (with Pluto) and only specific asteroids.

Tight aspects are the key: 3 degrees for squares & oppositions (challenges), and conjunctions and trines (opportunities), and also the inconjunct/quincunx. Remember that squares and oppositions are flat-out “No!” indicators because they’re stressful. However, the quincunx, even though it’s an irritation, is also an enticement! (One exception: if it’s formed from Saturn—then it’s a more severe “No!” In fact, Saturn challenges are the worst, although the opportunities are neutral.) And no: sextiles are not acceptable in the Magi system.

Once again: it’s the conjunction & trine vs. the square and opposition, and the quincunx USUALLY supports a positive outcome (unless Saturn is the planet of contact with Chiron). Trines and conjunctions (and the odd inconjuncts, excepting Saturn, as noted) from the major planets to Chiron are joyful, harmonious, and promising: love, marriage, family, success, acclaim, adventure, bonding, and more.

Challenges from the Sun are about Trust; Challenges from the Moon involve emotional attachments and past-life memories; Mercury challenges are about communications and exchanges of ideas and views; Venus challenges are "The Impossible Dream" that we can't let go; Mars conflicts involve tempers. anger management, and a lack of emotional sensitivity.

Jupiter challenges are actually reasonable in Magi astrology--it's not bad, but it's not necessarily a boost. Saturn challenges are dead-ends: effort is futile and a potential ultimate disaster if pursued. Uranus conflicts are explosive: the family and friends circles know there's a problem, and they often are outspoken about the toll it takes on you. Neptune conflicts seem wonderful at first, and then fade away into dissatisfaction and departure. Pluto challenges start strong with a powerful attraction, then deteriorate at a rapid pace. Control and power are issues here.

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Chiron and the Sun’s Self-Identity and Soul Purpose: This is a positive outcome. It’s a Linkage (success): a special one that usually creates mutual trust, especially on the part of the Chiron person. For that reason, this is called the Linkage of Trust. Another result is great ease when the linked persons are in physical proximity, or even just conversing on the phone. Linked persons view each other as confidants, a part of the family, and long-term partners. The Higher level of Trust also means they need to be aware of each other’s faults and be honest about it.

Chiron and the Moon’s Emotional Intuition: A Chiron-Moon harmonious energy flow creates the intuitive feeling of having known another person in a previous life—often a sign of “love at first sight,” especially for the Chiron person.

Chiron and Mercury’s Communications Network:

Positive energy patterns are excellent for improving the ability (and desire) for two people to be able to effortlessly communicate with each other and have mutual intuitive understanding. It is a very beneficial connection, especially for the woman in the relationship, as females are naturally more aware of needing to talk over matters. In this case, it raises intuitive possibilities and the ability to “read each other’s minds” in a useful manner.

Chiron and Venus, the Bringer of Love, Pleasure, and Beauty/Enjoyment: This is a Magical Linkage, and a Golden Linkage for Success, and is singularly the most powerful and beneficial linkage that two persons can have. It is also a Romance Linkage and a Cinderella Linkage. It brings Combined Destinies, the uniting of futures, becoming one family, money as partners, joining forces, a lifelong relationship, and a charismatic relationship. If this is formed with someone, chances are very high that each will help the other. This linkage greatly improves the chances of marriage with the linked person. This is the strongest of all linkages and helps form enduring bonds. It has almost mystical influences and seems to help the linked persons in anything they do as a pair.

Chiron and Mars, the Male Energy Polarity: This is a strong sexual generator for the man in a relationship, but a woman will want a family with the man who brings this power to her life. In terms of attraction that leads to marriage, the Chiron-Mars connection often creates a level of attraction that is impossible to ignore. It is the one and only Marital Sexual factor where the man will often marry the linked woman.

Chiron and Jupiter, the Bringer of Fortune & Opportunities: This is a 3-way joyfully energetic and positive energy pattern when found in harmonious conditions; it brings Romance, Financial and Material Gain, and a Cinderella-Fantasy. Aside from the Venus-Chiron linkage, it is the most beneficial and powerful energy source that can be found: combined super success, a blessed marriage and relationship, a fortunate family, success as partners, and mutual prosperity by association with each other—“the treasure at the end of the rainbow.”

Chiron and Saturn, the Taskmaster of Life Lessons: This creates a very strong bond; usually the Saturn soul has a high level of control and discipline over the destiny of the Chiron person, and thereby has the upper hand in the overall relationship. It is neither negative nor positive regarding outcomes. Marriage between two people with this linkage is possible if there are also Romantic connections in the Magi system (Venus, Jupiter, or Neptune with Chiron).

Chiron and Uranus, the Surprising and Unexpected: This linkage is powerful in providing mutual respect and combined public acclaim and success. It brings a famous and charismatic partnership or career, and mutually magnified success.

Chiron and Neptune, the Mystical-Fantasy Figure: The harmonious energy patterns are a Lifetime Linkage and a Cinderella Linkage. This is also one of the connections that creates very lasting relationships. It is also a Romantic Linkage and the third most common connection among married couples. It brings a lifetime of togetherness, a lasting role as a member of the family, security in the family bonding and family life, and long-term security through marriage and children.

Chiron and Pluto, the Powerhouse of Personal Change: This is a Financial Linkage of Gain and Prosperity, a combined union of power and success, a prosperous and powerful partnership or marriage, noteworthy affluence, and compelling and effective family ties and emotional relationships. 

Chiron: The Search for a Mentor; The Wounded Healer

       
Chiron's name ("KY-ron") is from Greek mythology, for the centaur who lived on a high mountain, acting as a tutor and teacher to various youths who were to become heroes in their own lifetimes.  Jason, who sought the Golden Fleece, Achilles, near-immortal warrior at Troy, Hercules, strongest man alive, and the musician-poet Orpheus all learned their skills from Chiron.  But Chiron taught (and signifies) values and knowledge; the union of intellect and instinct.  He taught medicine, fighting arts, music and astrology, among other disciplines.  But practically speaking, discipline itself: to show how to change oneself to create a better destiny, a radical transformation of attitude towards life, was Chiron's true purpose.  (The word "chiropractor" comes from his name.)

    Chiron, as a centaur, has bearings towards the sign of Sagittarius, the Archer.   The Archer is indeed a centaur, holding a drawn bow, aimed at a target.  The similarity is no coincidence.  Chiron was the chief centaur, the first of his kind.  He was wounded accidentally by the poisoned arrows that belonged to Hercules.  Chiron’s agony and pain were excrutiating, but he was partially immortal and could not die without permission from the gods.  He voluntarily gave up his immortal life, they granted his request, and at his death, was placed in the sky.

    Chiron is the key to a Cosmic quest for learning higher Universal values to promote growth of our soul by searching for a Teacher.  It is also a search for the way to heal psychological wounds and integrate the lesson into whole-ness.  This is done by blending the skills of a teacher (which is also Sagittarian in nature) and the quest for truth (also Sagittarian) as a separate identity.  Last, consider the glyph, or symbol for Chiron.  It appears to be a stylized key.  It represents an esoteric key or tool to open a door:  the doorway of change in a very personalized search in our lives for answers.  And to find answers, we seek a Teacher, a Mentor, to help us learn those mysteries of Life.  So we find Chiron in our Chart, to help us find what and why and whom we are searching, in that role of a Guide.
   
    Chiron’s role as a Healer, especially one who has been wounded by another’s unintentional actions, find a concurring role in atypical childhood development.  As mentioned in a prior post, Alice Miller speaks of an early developmental awareness of other people’s pain in her book The Drama of the Gifted Child.  She theorizes that children who are sensitive, compassionate, and emotionally empathic to others often become the focal points of their parent’s disparity as a functioning family unit.  The parent who provides the most nurturing, and therefore acts as a Moon-Ceres role model, transmits to the “Gifted Child” that the adult cannot cope with the stress of raising a child and handling the demands of a family.  The child therefore becomes insensitive to his/her own needs and acts as a support system for the parent, sometimes exchanging psychological roles.  This could be thought of as a child who “grows up old before their time.”  Obviously, there can be many factors for this kind of parental role transference:  financial limitations, the loss of a spouse, patterns of abuse or neglect, or simply an emotional lack of strength.  The result is that the child takes on the painful experiences of the parent and identifies with them as their own, and cuts off their own child-like innocence.

    Chiron’s role here is to allow the grown adult who suffered as the Wounded Child to confront their hidden agendas of pain and resolve the issues that have been buried in the subconscious (symbolized by the Moon and the first impressions by the nurturing parent), and the unconscious (symbolized by the 12th house of retreat, psychological issues, the 4th house of early home awareness, the rulership of the sign Cancer as the 4th sign, and lastly, the 8th house of ‘other people’s values’).  These Wounded Children often grow up to become adult healers in the psychological and therapeutic fields, such as social workers, psychologist-psychiatrists, abuse counselors and nursing-nurturing.  They often are unaware on a conscious level of why they have chosen these avenues, but the need to continue to bring ‘treatment’ still lingers (Chiron also taught knowledge of art, martial arts and music, which has a positive healing virtue of achievement, obviously a factor lacked by the parent).

    The mechanics of Chiron come under various divisions within the chart, apart from the houses.  First, there is the nocturnal or diurnal Chiron.  The nocturnal Chiron can be found in the lower half of the chart, from houses 1-6.  With this placement, Chiron brings on the role of the subjective, psychic nature.  Such a person can be expected themselves to play the role of a mentor, or be more intuitively aware of their Higher Guidance.  They may find themselves playing the role of a friend to a younger person to offer the insight of age and maturity.  Or they may simply be attuned to the need for progressive, significant change in their life for reasons that they are not consciously noticing.  Examples of this Chiron are John Lennon, hailed by millions for the messages he brought through his music, and Mahatma Gandhi, who altered the legacy of the British Empire and his native India with his passive means of non-violent change.

    A diurnal Chiron represents an opposite alignment with the principles of the Centaur planet.  This placement will be in the upper half of the chart, from houses 7-12.  This person may actively seek a teacher, and there will be association with those who will fulfill this capacity.  This search will be underlined by the need for self-transformation, yet it may be set aside until the individual finds in their life a catalyst to signify this change.  The spark of momentum may be an event or ideal to strive for, not just a person's presence.  Examples of this Chiron can be found in the literary work of Carlos Castenada, who wrote of a shaman's journey with psychedelics, or novelist Jack Kerouac.

    Another division of the chart for Chiron's placement can be found in the rising or setting hemisphere.  The rising hemisphere are the 1st-3rd houses/10th-12th houses, or the left side of the chart.  The setting hemisphere are the 4th-9th houses, or the right side of the chart.

    A chart with a rising placement of Chiron shows a person who will exhibit more intuitive and idealistic opportunities of the Chironian nature.  The social and intellectual talents will dominate the materialistic and practical side.  This person may be a better teacher than an actual practitioner of medical arts, or a musical historian or critic of a select period, rather than a virtuoso performer.  This Chiron placement will also indicate a search for a mentor who is dramatic and outstanding in personality, a visible beacon for the worldly seeker's quest.  It is therefore vital for one's chart with a rising Chiron to be wary of those who appear in the guise and mantle of Teacher!  Chiron as a mentor is always charismatic but fair in ethics, following the objectivity of the centaur who taught his mythological students.  The lesson was given for a general, holistic and practical education, to prepare the student for a balance of idealism and practicality.  Left-side Chiron hemispheres are found in charts of controversial figures, such as Aleister Crowley, Uri Geller and former California governor Jerry Brown.

    A setting Chiron placement, on the right side of the chart, indicates a person who seeks a mentor/teacher with a sense of practicality and logical order.  This person would expect the quest for Chiron's truths to be found over the course of a lifetime.  They take the careful examination and repeated effort of trial by experience to study cause and effect, and prepare themselves.

    We can therefore see two sides of the Chironian influence.  The left hemisphere takes on a Uranian quality, of an unexpected, unusual quest for a mentor, and the teachings to follow.  The right hemisphere is more Saturnian, giving the individual the steady, determined outlook in their search for a tutor and truth.  This two-sided concept can be further considered as a measure of the two planets in whose orbit we can most easily find Chiron:  that of Uranus and Saturn.  Astrology operates in triplicity: (3 cardinal/fixed/mutable qualities; 3 fire/earth/air/water elements; 30 degrees in each house; the trine, or three 30-degree arcs as a favorable aspect).  So where is the third side to the Chiron puzzle?  The answer is Neptune, a co-ruler with Jupiter of spiritual seeker Pisces.  (Jupiter also rules Sagittarius, our first awareness of Chiron).  Chiron's orbit takes it near Neptune, which represents the mystical, spiritual side in our chart.  All Chironian quests we face ultimately bring us towards a refinement, an upgrade, based on evolving our soul and the world around us.  This growth, and the desire to achieve it, is directed by a Higher Source.  Mankind's quest to return to our Creator carries the Neptunian illusion, as well as the elevated measure of faith found in that planet's higher vibration.

    Chiron's qualities may also be measured by the elements of fire, earth, air and water.  A fire sign Chiron native approaches his or her destiny as a supreme act of will, and that the search for the truth has a moral obligation that can be found by self-sufficiency and independence.  These individuals can be convinced of their direction by sound, logical reason.  They take their quest as a personal goal, putting their (fire) energy into it with all their might.

    An earth Chiron individual places emphasis on the here and now, with lesser regard for past example or the future.  They seek their quest on the basis for a practical, immediate, tangible destiny, undergoing the transformation with determination, endurance and perseverance.

    An air Chiron categorizes a person whose quest gives them visions of the future, and what may come to pass, if their pursuit of their destiny can be brought to man's attention.  They are impatient with the current flow of thought, and seek ways to bring ethereal dreams into the present way of thinking.  For these people, self-transformation is more on a mental level, to paraphrase, "As a man or woman thinks, so they are."

    A water Chiron brings momentum for the quest on the basis of emotion and feeling.  This person tends to live in doubt, even worry, about the present and future.  For them, the destiny they seek to find is spurred on by mystical, illusionary guidance (with Neptunian emphasis).  Compassion and feelings for mankind, whether good or bad, are crucial to the direction taken to find the key to Universal truth.

    Chiron's influence can also be found in the examples of cardinal, fixed and mutable signs.  A cardinal Chiron indicates a person who has a motivating, personal quest to explore, as well as initiating a course for others to follow.  Others (a mutable Chiron as an example) are likely to sense the originality of such a person and the mission of their destiny, adapt the teaching quality as their own, and then place the initiating cardinal Chiron as their own mentor.

    A fixed Chiron shows steady application as they adapt a plan for self-transformation by a mentor who exhibits transcendental or exemplary objectives to uphold.  The fixed Chiron person will firmly adhere to their quest, as the destiny they seek to accomplish becomes purposeful by endured effort.  They may say, "I can have a dream I wish to see come to life, and I believe that it can be true, as long as I never stop trying."

    A mutable Chiron is the most flexible seeker of the quest for destiny and personal change.  This person may not be consciously aware of the rebuilding of their character, nor may they directly seek it or actively try to sustain it, like their cardinal and fixed counterparts.  Instead, they may feel that it has been a fated destiny, and one that has been influenced by undercurrents of subconscious force.  These people may not understand or realize the magnitude of the results of their personal transformation.  The search for the truth demands a paradox:  crisis is necessary for change; destruction must precede it.

(c) MDLOP8 2010

Chiron - The Wounded Healer's signature and expression

  The astronomical body, Chiron (once thought to be a comet or asteroid, now considered a "planetoid" or small planet-like body) is named after the ancient Greek, centaur demi-god who was horse from the waist down and human from the waist up. Chiron's orbit, unlike that of the asteroids, lies between Saturn and Uranus, and is irregular in that it occasionally crosses inside the orbit of Saturn. This astronomical characteristic is symbolic of Chiron's reputation for being somewhat of a maverick.

Psychologically and astrologically, Chiron's placement in the horoscope indicates one's experience of the wound that does not heal, (or the wound that does not seem to heal, because although an important lesson may be learned through dealing with it, the wound seems to spiral around with another lesson on a deeper level). Chiron represents one's experience of woundedness and the nature of the wound. Most often, this is a pattern of behavior-and-response learned through early childhood: often the result of parents dealing with their own issues and unaware of our own needs as we grew up.

Second, by coming to terms with suffering through an acceptance of one's mortality, one arrives at a greater state of wholeness or healing. Third, Chiron shows how one comes into one's own as an elder or mentor who can provide healing and guidance to others. Thus Chiron also astrologically indicates the ways and means with which you can guide others, as well as the kind of mentoring and healing you seek for yourself.